The most accurate measure of our worth is how much we value ourselves and how we treat ourselves..
Most people want to be treated with respect, love and care from other people and base their own sense of value on this. However, as our self concept shapes our thoughts and behaviours and ultimately our destiny…it is even more important to treat ourselves with the same.
When we want to be appreciated, we are relying on someone to be in appreciataion. If we are waiting around for this, and it doesn’t happen, then unworthiness comes in as a pattern…this pattern could have begun to manifest itself as kids when we were counting on our parents, teachers and peers approval to feel good enough and worthy.
Moreover, as the result of our upbringing, combined with myths and misunderstandings, many people feel that they do not deserve good things to happen to them. As we are growing up, we are often told that we are being selfish if we set our own personal happiness as a key measure of our success. We are often told that our job in life is to make other people happy, and if we get a little bit of personal happiness on the way, we should consider ourselves lucky.
This has confused people for centuries, yet they eventually discover that you cannot give away something that you do not have. You cannot give away money that you don’t have. You cannot give away love that you don’t have. And you cannot give away happiness if you don’t have happiness of your own. In fact, the
most wonderful thing you can do to, and for, the most important people in your life, is to be a genuinely happy person and value yourself!
As a result, people around you will feel happy and value you…
So, the next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel unworthy, unloved or unappreciated
Stop….and say to yourself
I choose to value myself and I am worthy of all the ease, joy and glory in life
The more you say it , the more you will believe it and the better your self worth will get!
Good Luck wih this one…
Until Next Time,
Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY!!!
Sidra
xxx
This one is close to the heart. I have felt many times in life that I have purposefully deprived myself of even little happiness due to low self evaluation. You are right about not being able to give what you do not possess. I will definitely try out your advice… I choose to value myself and I am worthy of all the ease, joy and glory in life.
Wow…this was amazing. I love your analogy (as always hheheheeh).The fact that you don’t have happiness means you can’t give it to anyone else.
So true! And it is amazing that we tend to rely, regardless of how much we know, on external verifications/approvals, thus wasting much needed energy on things that don’t serve us.
It is, however beautiful when you discover authentic happiness, the genuine, real, wholesome one…It simply shines from within! I love seeing that in people. You know, the aura that emanates…”I am happy because I choose to be!’ vibes! It is contagious and lovely!
All this waiting for someone/something to make us happy, to give us permission to be happy, is exhausting, but sadly, deeply conditioned in us! I witness it on regular basis in my gym, where mothers can’t help but utter this ‘crippling sentence: ‘…if you are good and listen, you will blah, blah, blah’! so boring, so counter-productive and useless.
Chose to be happy! Authentically happy! Truly happy! Only then will you be able to enjoy life on a higher plane!
Make it a magical day:-)!
Lidija
Thanks for sharing, I found this article, while searching for some downloads and ran across this site, thoughtful comments and good points made.