Self Criticism is one of the most common behaviour people engage in and spend a major part of their lives telling themselves that they are “not good enough” or how “stupid ” they have been and keep reinforcing the very behaviour they have been telling themselves off about!

The most interesting thing about this behaviour is that once we look deep inside of this pattern of criticism we realise that the way we were treated when we were very little is usually the way we treat ourselves now.

The adults around kids set patterns of being angry , upset or scared when things don’t go the way they expected and kids learn to apply the same emotions on themselves even when they themselves become adults.

So, the person we are scolding for being silly , not good enough or lazy is a young old child inside us that been listening to all these labels all life and as soon as something similiar happens that voice pops up again to criticize us…

Now, the good news is that once we become aware of that criticizing voice inside our head we can say that voice

Thankyou for sharing your opinion , I CHOOSE TO BE KIND TO MYSELF

…And BE Kind to yourself.. as whatever was done in the past is done and now we have the opportunity to treat ourselves the way we want to be treated.

So , Treat yourself with Acceptance , Kindness and Love ! as that is what that little child wants to reach its highest potential!

Good Luck…

Until Next Time,

Love ,Laugh and BE HAPPY

Sidra
xxx

Our language is said to be the gateway of our minds…

What we are thinking is expressed by what we are saying most of the time !

Language spoken or written is consistently shaping our lives.

It determines how we feel .. it can pull us down, help us uplift, wound us deeply or heal our hearts. The language we use have the power to break confidences, build life long relations or start wars.

So,
What does your Language say ?

The words you speak can have a profound effect on the people they reach.

Are you uplifting yourself and others by using positive language ?

Are you encouraging your children, your spouse, your friend or even the stranger you pass on the street?

Or are you tearing down your own family with words of criticism, bitterness and judgment?

Are you causing the destruction of your self-esteem by speaking ill suited words over yourself, your health and prosperity?

Most people use the language that doesn’t serve them and keep them in the stuck state…

So, Next time you find your self using the language that doesn’t serve you ask yourself

WHAT IS IT THAT I REALLY WANT?

If i dont want to be broke .. what do i want to be?
If i dont want to be ill …. what do i want to be?
and so on so forth..

Asking for what you want and not what you dont want would shift things and help focus on the positive side of things…

Good Luck with this …

Until next time,
LOVE , LAUGH AND BE HAPPY

Sidra xxx

The term ” Control” is all around us…

Control your ANGER, Control your FINANCES, Control your WEIGHT , control your RELATIONSHIP even control your thoughts… control , control control….

Thought comes and thought goes , sometimes a thought comes that makes cringe and other thoughts make us HAPPY!!

So, how do we keep the thoughts that make us happy?

control creates resistence towards that emotions and the more we try to control things the more they seem to go out of control.

The key is to Direct the mind towards the desired state or thought…

And one very powerful and simple way to direct our mind is play a game called CHANGE

So, whener you have a thought thats making you sad , upset or any emotion that doesnt serve you..say to yourself CHANGE and think of something different in that instant .. and if a different thought comes up which is not serving you too.. say CHANGE again.. keep saying it until you come up with a thought you want to think and keep on thinking similiar thoughts..

In effect what you are doing is directing your mind towards the thoughts you want to think instead of trying to control the thoughts..

and its important to direct our thoughts because we all know this

THINGS YOU THINK ABOUT ; YOU BRING ABOUT

So, get the hang of this simple yet powerful word and get the results you want!!

Until next time,

Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY
xxx

Science tells us that our brains have something called a reticular activating system (RAS) which is something like antennas on a Tv set that catches the frequency we tune on our Tv sets.

So, we see the channel that is transmitted through the antennas and ignore the other channels…unless ofcourse when we change the frequency the channel changes….

Same is true for life as well …..

There are so many potential realities like poverty, bad relationships, recession, anger, deception or abundance, honesty, fulfilling relationships , love so on and so forth..

Depending on what we are tuning for , our antennas will catch and will show us as “REALITY” .

This system tends to lock in and only see what our belief system accepts as reality .

What we don’t believe we can’t see….

The good news is , once we become aware of these “antennas” we can always change the frequency and can tune in to the one we want!

So, next time if you don’t like what’s showing up in your life ask :

What can i focus on in this situation which would help me to see what i am looking for?

and trust that your mind will find something positive to learn from every apparent negative!!

Lastly, someone very truely said :

WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS ; what you ignore shrinks

So, what would you like to focus on in your life?

Until next time,
Love, Laugh and BE HAPPY

xxx

When everyday is the same and nothing seems to be interesting in life then it is time to STOP And THINK

The fact that everyday is the same means that we havent taken time out from life to appreciate the daily miracles that occur in our lives..

So, when you feel bored or frustrated in life it is actually good thing because discontent comes before a positive life change and that is the time to start questioning….

What is it that i really want, that if i got it, i would be happy?

Or

How can i generate happiness everyday?

A good question hooks the mind … so when you ask your mind a question that empowers ; its a step in the right direction!!

Now , what questions can you ask yourself or others that would help you find happiness everyday?

Take care,

Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY!!

xxx