So, how do we know that the thing we want is the thing we really want BEFORE working hard towards it?

Well, One of the great ways to figure that out is to learn to listen to our Body and trust the sensations in our physical body that gives us intuitive information about people and situations and choices around us.

This can be done just by asking simple question like :

How Does this Goal feel in my Body ?

and check how does your body respond to this question.. when you think about that goal…how do you feel because that is the Sat-Nav of life!! Its an indicator to know if that is the thing that you really want.

Our bodies have profound ways to respond to a situation that feels good and vice versa. its our ability to tune in to that feeling that would determined how accurate we get . As most of us have been so disconnected with our bodies that we miss out the signals we constantly get in the shape of headaches, sore throats, backaches and other physical symptoms..Its important to get the signals our bodies are providing us..

Once we learn to trust the messages our body is giving we can then identify what we really want by having a certain sensation that feels good.. it may be a tingling sensation in our hearts or a light feeling in our heads.. its different for different people.. .the more we trust the better it gets as the better it gets the more we trust!!

How we feel is the only thing that matters and if something feels right it ends up being right!!

Good luck with this one!
Until Next Time,
Love, Laugh and BE HAPPY!!!

Sidra
xxx

 Its human nature to help and it’s a feel good factor too. When we help someone with our actions, money, or even just a kind word, it gives us good feeling as well.

So, when does helping others turn to ‘over care’? And what is the potential challenge with it?

Essentially, ‘Over care’ doesn’t come from that centred, noble part of us that drives the Mother Teresa’s of the world. On the other hand, it comes from a place of lack.  We use the help-other attitude to escape from ‘helping ourselves’ as sometimes it’s much easier to give advice to others then to examine our own lives and we use  “ helping everyone” syndrome as a distraction to not helping ourselves.

This pattern is usually present due to our programming which says that “ people like those people who help others and put others first “  and it’s a good pattern as long as it serves us in helping our own selves too.

For Instance, if you have limited time yourself to do your own chores and you get a call from someone to help them with their issues… if you are running that program in your mind, most likely you will drop everything that’s important to be done for you and go to the rescue to the other person?

The important point here is to recognise the intention of you helping that person…

 
Stop!!!      And ask yourself these questions

Am I doing this because I like this person  and want to help them?

      OR 

I want this person to like me?

 
Learn to tell the difference between honouring your own desires to genuinely make a difference in someone’s life and merely going along with others wishes out of a need of approval

Remember you can’t belong to anyone else until you belong to yourself

Just quieting down and asking a few simple questions will help you clarify your intention…

Good Luck with that…

Until Next Time,

LOVE, LAUGH AND BE HAPPY

Sidra

Xxx

So, at the end of the day if they haven’t achieved the results they set themselves up for, they feel like a failure which brings up the memories of the past where they hadn’t managed to get things done and didn’t feel  good enough,  not worthy of anything and so on so forth..

NOW, The QUESTION   is, WHAT IS THE SUCCESS SCALE?

How do you know when you are headed for a busy, unfulfilled life? where may be one day if you have managed to get all the things done on your agenda,  you might be able to say  “I have  had a successful day  today” or “I am Successful Today”!

The ANSWER is,   CHANGE YOUR SUCCESS SCALE …

Start measuring your success by how much you have enjoyed your day vs. how much you have got done!  This way you will take a direct route to happiness and fulfilment and will give yourself permission to feel Happy without any external measures.

YOUR TASK : is to think of 5 things this week that  brought you joy, happiness, peace or just a plain good feeling ..
and if you can’t think of many then  GUESS WHAT???  Your job is to create some of that to measure!!

Good luck with that…
Until Next Time,
Love , Laugh and BE Happy
Sidra

Most people want to be treated with respect, love and care from other people and base their own sense of value on this. However, as our self concept shapes our thoughts and behaviours and ultimately our destiny…it is even more important to treat ourselves with the same.

When we want to be appreciated, we are relying on someone to be in appreciataion. If we are waiting around for this, and it doesn’t happen, then unworthiness comes in as a pattern…this pattern could have begun to manifest itself as kids when we were counting on our parents, teachers and peers approval to feel good enough and worthy.

Moreover, as the result of our upbringing, combined with myths and misunderstandings, many people feel that they do not deserve good things to happen to them. As we are growing up, we are often told that we are being selfish if we set our own personal happiness as a key measure of our success. We are often told that our job in life is to make other people happy, and if we get a little bit of personal happiness on the way, we should consider ourselves lucky.

This has confused people for centuries, yet they eventually discover that you cannot give away something that you do not have. You cannot give away money that you don’t have. You cannot give away love that you don’t have. And you cannot give away happiness if you don’t have happiness of your own. In fact, the
most wonderful thing you can do to, and for, the most important people in your life, is to be a genuinely happy person and value yourself!

As a result, people around you will feel happy and value you…

So, the next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel unworthy, unloved or unappreciated
Stop….and say to yourself

I choose to value myself and I am worthy of all the ease, joy and glory in life

The more you say it , the more you will believe it and the better your self worth will get!

Good Luck wih this one…

Until Next Time,

Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY!!!
Sidra
xxx

So we can either grow weeds in our mind’s garden or carefully sow the seeds of joy, happiness and abundance…nuture it and enjoy the results in our life.

So, making sure that we give our minds something constructive to work on would result in driven and focused action.

It can even be useful to examine what you want to bring into your life and then ensure that there’s room for it. For example, if you want to buy new clothes for the summer it would be a good idea to clear out old clothes to create space for new ones.

Some cultures even believe that giving money away to charity creates expanded space that will be filled with even more than has been given…. this is equivalent to creating a deliberate vacuum.

So, If you want new experiences like more joy, more happiness and more abundance to show up in your reality.. you need to make space in life.

A good way of doing that could be the use of following statement several times a day..

I choose to let go of my past and allow more joy, more happiness and abundance to show up and fill my space

Good luck with this,

Until Next Time,

Love, Laugh and BE HAPPY!!

Sidra
xxx

The most interesting thing about this behaviour is that once we look deep inside of this pattern of criticism we realise that the way we were treated when we were very little is usually the way we treat ourselves now.

The adults around kids set patterns of being angry , upset or scared when things don’t go the way they expected and kids learn to apply the same emotions on themselves even when they themselves become adults.

So, the person we are scolding for being silly , not good enough or lazy is a young old child inside us that been listening to all these labels all life and as soon as something similiar happens that voice pops up again to criticize us…

Now, the good news is that once we become aware of that criticizing voice inside our head we can say that voice

Thankyou for sharing your opinion , I CHOOSE TO BE KIND TO MYSELF

…And BE Kind to yourself.. as whatever was done in the past is done and now we have the opportunity to treat ourselves the way we want to be treated.

So , Treat yourself with Acceptance , Kindness and Love ! as that is what that little child wants to reach its highest potential!

Good Luck…

Until Next Time,

Love ,Laugh and BE HAPPY

Sidra
xxx

What we are thinking is expressed by what we are saying most of the time !

Language spoken or written is consistently shaping our lives.

It determines how we feel .. it can pull us down, help us uplift, wound us deeply or heal our hearts. The language we use have the power to break confidences, build life long relations or start wars.

So,
What does your Language say ?

The words you speak can have a profound effect on the people they reach.

Are you uplifting yourself and others by using positive language ?

Are you encouraging your children, your spouse, your friend or even the stranger you pass on the street?

Or are you tearing down your own family with words of criticism, bitterness and judgment?

Are you causing the destruction of your self-esteem by speaking ill suited words over yourself, your health and prosperity?

Most people use the language that doesn’t serve them and keep them in the stuck state…

So, Next time you find your self using the language that doesn’t serve you ask yourself

WHAT IS IT THAT I REALLY WANT?

If i dont want to be broke .. what do i want to be?
If i dont want to be ill …. what do i want to be?
and so on so forth..

Asking for what you want and not what you dont want would shift things and help focus on the positive side of things…

Good Luck with this …

Until next time,
LOVE , LAUGH AND BE HAPPY

Sidra xxx

Control your ANGER, Control your FINANCES, Control your WEIGHT , control your RELATIONSHIP even control your thoughts… control , control control….

Thought comes and thought goes , sometimes a thought comes that makes cringe and other thoughts make us HAPPY!!

So, how do we keep the thoughts that make us happy?

control creates resistence towards that emotions and the more we try to control things the more they seem to go out of control.

The key is to Direct the mind towards the desired state or thought…

And one very powerful and simple way to direct our mind is play a game called CHANGE

So, whener you have a thought thats making you sad , upset or any emotion that doesnt serve you..say to yourself CHANGE and think of something different in that instant .. and if a different thought comes up which is not serving you too.. say CHANGE again.. keep saying it until you come up with a thought you want to think and keep on thinking similiar thoughts..

In effect what you are doing is directing your mind towards the thoughts you want to think instead of trying to control the thoughts..

and its important to direct our thoughts because we all know this

THINGS YOU THINK ABOUT ; YOU BRING ABOUT

So, get the hang of this simple yet powerful word and get the results you want!!

Until next time,

Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY
xxx

So, we see the channel that is transmitted through the antennas and ignore the other channels…unless ofcourse when we change the frequency the channel changes….

Same is true for life as well …..

There are so many potential realities like poverty, bad relationships, recession, anger, deception or abundance, honesty, fulfilling relationships , love so on and so forth..

Depending on what we are tuning for , our antennas will catch and will show us as “REALITY” .

This system tends to lock in and only see what our belief system accepts as reality .

What we don’t believe we can’t see….

The good news is , once we become aware of these “antennas” we can always change the frequency and can tune in to the one we want!

So, next time if you don’t like what’s showing up in your life ask :

What can i focus on in this situation which would help me to see what i am looking for?

and trust that your mind will find something positive to learn from every apparent negative!!

Lastly, someone very truely said :

WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS ; what you ignore shrinks

So, what would you like to focus on in your life?

Until next time,
Love, Laugh and BE HAPPY

xxx

The fact that everyday is the same means that we havent taken time out from life to appreciate the daily miracles that occur in our lives..

So, when you feel bored or frustrated in life it is actually good thing because discontent comes before a positive life change and that is the time to start questioning….

What is it that i really want, that if i got it, i would be happy?

Or

How can i generate happiness everyday?

A good question hooks the mind … so when you ask your mind a question that empowers ; its a step in the right direction!!

Now , what questions can you ask yourself or others that would help you find happiness everyday?

Take care,

Love , Laugh and BE HAPPY!!

xxx