Throughout history people like Mother Teresa, Florence Nightingale , Abdul Sattar Ehdi and other altruist are regarded very highly for their work in human wellbeing.
Its human nature to help and it’s a feel good factor too. When we help someone with our actions, money, or even just a kind word, it gives us good feeling as well.
So, when does helping others turn to ‘over care’? And what is the potential challenge with it?
Essentially, ‘Over care’ doesn’t come from that centred, noble part of us that drives the Mother Teresa’s of the world. On the other hand, it comes from a place of lack. We use the help-other attitude to escape from ‘helping ourselves’ as sometimes it’s much easier to give advice to others then to examine our own lives and we use “ helping everyone” syndrome as a distraction to not helping ourselves.
This pattern is usually present due to our programming which says that “ people like those people who help others and put others first “ and it’s a good pattern as long as it serves us in helping our own selves too.
For Instance, if you have limited time yourself to do your own chores and you get a call from someone to help them with their issues… if you are running that program in your mind, most likely you will drop everything that’s important to be done for you and go to the rescue to the other person?
The important point here is to recognise the intention of you helping that person…
Stop!!! And ask yourself these questions
Am I doing this because I like this person and want to help them?
OR
I want this person to like me?
Learn to tell the difference between honouring your own desires to genuinely make a difference in someone’s life and merely going along with others wishes out of a need of approval
Remember you can’t belong to anyone else until you belong to yourself
Just quieting down and asking a few simple questions will help you clarify your intention…
Good Luck with that…
Until Next Time,
LOVE, LAUGH AND BE HAPPY
Sidra
Xxx
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